tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post9118264127324886889..comments2023-08-27T09:08:39.850-07:00Comments on The Magic Brush, Inc.: Adoption Update: The kids we just said "no" to....Magic Brushhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09663747993075580281noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-31004363054530463312013-08-23T19:27:16.053-07:002013-08-23T19:27:16.053-07:00You have an amazing heart. It shows in every word ...You have an amazing heart. It shows in every word you wrote in this post. My mom always says, "what's meant for you, won't go past you" and I am a true believer. Even if you don't achieve your dream of bringing another child into your family, your willingness to embrace and love a child who so desperately needs it, is a beautiful lesson for your own child.Christy Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13001544818079635330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-65588328364348880792013-06-20T22:46:53.062-07:002013-06-20T22:46:53.062-07:00I am so proud of the woman you have become! Bless...I am so proud of the woman you have become! Blessings to your current family and your future one! I teach in a school were sadly many of our kids are in foster care or live with adopted parents. You have a long, hard road ahead of you - but you are living the life God has called you to live. I don't think that life can get better than that.<br />Laura RyanAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13937594256481141972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-37204088838566786682013-06-20T06:30:59.930-07:002013-06-20T06:30:59.930-07:00Jennifer, NO bashing here. Although I haven't ...Jennifer, NO bashing here. Although I haven't been through the process you're experiencing, I have experienced waiting and testing and obedience. I don't know the pains and heartache of what you're going through. What I do know is that God has His own timetable. He opens and shuts doors. He is a last minute, time's almost up, miracle worker. He knows best for us when we want to trust our own hearts. Keep listening for His direction and still small whisper. After all He's usually not into earthquakes and fire. (1 Kings 19: 11-13)Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09329835700932855025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-11914134582832202202013-06-20T06:16:27.650-07:002013-06-20T06:16:27.650-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09329835700932855025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-45655389719833642212013-06-20T06:14:47.088-07:002013-06-20T06:14:47.088-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09329835700932855025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-53441227508203681132013-06-19T22:16:12.283-07:002013-06-19T22:16:12.283-07:00First off-- I am so incredibly impressed with your...First off-- I am so incredibly impressed with your raw honesty! It is really important as you share this journey with so many that you be an open book. Remember...you are embarking on something so many wouldn't dare to begin. It requires audacity and courage so this blog doesn't disappoint.<br /><br />I also applaud you for championing your husband in his role at the head of your home and the voice of reason. 10 times out of 10 my hubby is vastly more sensible than I am! I am all gusto and no backup sometimes! :)<br /><br />Along with that I want to toss the idea out (because I am living it , as perhaps some of your followers are) - foster adoption will not ever be "easier" than another version. Not just the waiting, not just the painfully incompetent matching process, but the actual now-we-are-your-parents-and-we-are-family part.<br /><br />This foster adoption thing is not a walk in the park. These kids are deeply wounded with a grief we as adults do not want to begin to try to understand. Even if this one girl match comes together, she will come with a lifetime of disappoinment and hurt. And baggage. And therapy. And resource professionals.<br /><br />Right now we have four kids (you know--two bio, two adopted) and even though it is summer, we are shuffling between weekly PT for B who has a persistent toe-walking issue, weekly play therapy (which is finally getting somewhere a year later!) for A, and every other week play therapy for E and B. We are in constant communication with case worker,play therapist, classroom teacher, etc about their needs. There are four of them. (which would be your scenario if you added one sweet little in). And it is a LOT. <br /><br />But this year it is easier. We crossed the year since move in in April. Somewhere around there, we all cruised into a more we-know-each-other mode.<br /><br />But hear my heart on this.<br /><br />A year ago I was done. I felt it was wrong. I thought we signed up for something we couldn't handle. TWO KIDS???? What were we thinking!?<br /><br />And I can't even get into what is being covered in therapy. Just know that what you think you know about a kiddo is just the surface of the deep wound they have suffered and it will take a long time to dig into to heal.<br /><br />Did my bio kids take a backseat? Yes. Did they suffer? Yes. Did they have an 8 year head start on bonding and attachment that my new daughters never got while suffering the loss of their immediate family? Yes.<br /><br />And today I had a long convo with my one and only son who wanted seven brothers ...eek! I asked if he was okay with just sisters and he answered, "I love them so much. We have a lot of fun together. Plus, I have Dad. And my stuffed animals that are boys. And my cousins and neighbors who are boys. I love having three sisters."<br /><br />I hear your heart and validate it with all I can for how I felt in the season I was in that you are in now. <br /><br />But I beckon from the future...there is no "perfect" match. There is a good match. A good fit. Something miraculous God intends to do with a seemingly hopeless situation.<br /><br />I know from what I have read that you signed up to be a miracle to someone with no future. My hope that is that you would take from this...there may be a "maybe" match that turns out to be all God intended and He might mightily blow your mind at what He plans to do in it.<br /><br />Again--disclaimer-- this is a mama post 12 months toghether. A year ago... nevermind. Tuck and run! This year...I see what He has had in mind all along and it is bigger than I dared to imagine.<br /><br />I WILL KEEP PRAYING for the ideal match! I love your heart and your authenticity!Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12606678542608421990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-60476844651674631292013-06-19T20:46:53.774-07:002013-06-19T20:46:53.774-07:00Your post sounded so familiar to me! When I was 3...Your post sounded so familiar to me! When I was 36 years old, my husband and I started down the same road you are on. We had 2 biological sons who were 11 and 7. I realllly wanted a daughter, and my husband did not want any more biological children. We went through all the training, etc. and began "the wait". I put a personal deadline of turning 40 for the process to end. Well, after several "near misses", I called a halt when I turned 42. God had another plan for me. Sadly, I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago, which would have left me raising a teenage daughter alone and probably struggling financially had an adoption worked out for us. But my oldest son and his wife have given me a precious granddaughter and grandson, with another grandson due in just a few weeks. I adore them, and get my "girl fix" with my granddaughter. This is what God had in mind for me, and I'm glad it worked out the way it did. I wish you all the best in your personal journey.Richard's Fanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14122477544538483804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-85730687037380403792013-06-19T20:07:36.424-07:002013-06-19T20:07:36.424-07:00This was such a meaningful post, Jennifer. I have ...This was such a meaningful post, Jennifer. I have never been in this situation, but I felt myself nodding along and agreeing with every word you said.<br /><br />Love you. xoCindy * GoodHaus Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15925909092473417350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-48676298557373088332013-06-19T20:02:02.560-07:002013-06-19T20:02:02.560-07:00Here is what I take from this. I believe that God...Here is what I take from this. I believe that God has given to us, the perfect spouse and he is to be the head of the household. What that looks like in my life is the guy that is supposed to inject some reality into my pie in the sky ideas. Not to shoot them down, to give them some reality checks, because the Lord knows that I am a crazy idea generator and, if I ran with every single solitary idea that I had, we would be a train wreck. Sometimes I feel deflated but I usually sit back and am very thankful for the wisdom. My husband NEVER tells me no or that I shouldn't do something or that I can't do something but he does ask just the right questions that sometimes lead me to making that decision. Sometimes not. But he backs me, too. In your case, your husband showed some wisdom that was hard to hear and hard to see but really important. I have a tendency to try to push God into things. Those don't work out so well. I am thankful for your transparency - you really did put your heart out there. You have your priorities in order, you have God in control. I'm praying for peace for you. mumziepoohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01116547433695944285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-11620933595818835312013-06-19T19:54:25.013-07:002013-06-19T19:54:25.013-07:00As I have told you on FB, God is saving you and yo...As I have told you on FB, God is saving you and your family for a very special girl!!! We tend to get inpatient when life doesn't go our way but we forget that God is in control and EVERYTHING will take place when he wants us to receive it.<br />Continue to listen to your husband's wisdom and loving your three treasures!!! Continued prayers for you and your family.abueninhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01305313851172647937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-76600205034465396862013-06-19T19:42:08.125-07:002013-06-19T19:42:08.125-07:00You will find the girl that youve wanted .god hear...You will find the girl that youve wanted .god hears you and maybe the close call is his way of saying begin to b prepared!! Prayers Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17753901036810920242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-38648907499778455042013-06-19T19:38:00.212-07:002013-06-19T19:38:00.212-07:00Jennifer, your words expressed the emotions of eve...Jennifer, your words expressed the emotions of everyone in your family.... I could feel your excitement, your confusion, your "is this the call"...... <br /><br />I'm in awe that you allow some of us who are total strangers to be privy to your adoption "process".<br /><br />I know you've heard "let go & let God" and it can be oh so hard to do.... but if you feel any hesitation in your gut, I believe it's not God's plan "right now". <br /><br />I'm sending a huge hug, a steady shoulder and an enormous amount of understanding. <br /><br />I know it hurts deep... Hug your wonderful, kind, supportive husband, hug those beautiful children, but most of all hug yourself. <br /><br />You've been navigating through raw emotion, hesitant to open your heart while dealing with endless bureaucratic " stuff". It's overwhelming. <br /><br />I hope it helps that a stranger who "stalks" you on FaceBook and reads your blog feels you are a most loving, kind woman with a huge, huge heart.Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02111462618174557219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-89246393419928767632013-06-19T19:24:11.321-07:002013-06-19T19:24:11.321-07:00Remain strong. Sometimes we need our significant ...Remain strong. Sometimes we need our significant other to be the voice of reason even if we don't always agree at the moment. But, look at the garage situation...he was right. From reading this post and others about the status, you've given it to God to control. Let him have complete reins and surrender it all to him...which I think you have. He is good and He knows what the right thing is...in His time and in His way. I am and will continue to pray for you and your family! I pray that doors open and that the doors that open are made very clear to you. Big hugs!!Lynn Fernhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12943142571532995908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1774460650617373734.post-54781102888979754112013-06-19T19:16:38.349-07:002013-06-19T19:16:38.349-07:00And you bless me. And He will bless you for honori...And you bless me. And He will bless you for honoring your husband. I promise. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16878960551331359389noreply@blogger.com